We’ve all heard the term “default parent.” Parents bear most of the household labor, not only cooking, cleaning and raising children, but also the mental burden. Scheduling, meal planning and more. a lot of. So when we choose a true partner partners, That burden feels less heavy.
Kier Gaines, a father, licensed therapist and public speaker, shared a simple moment like this with his wife that actually says a lot about them as husband and wife (and as parents!
Gaines and his wife were discussing logistics for tomorrow, which seemed a little unusual because their youngest child, Syd, was sick.
“But the child is sick,” he said to his wife. “She needs to be a priority.”
“She can be my priority,” his wife responded.
“Syd stay home tomorrow. E has to go to school and you get E. We make breakfast. I relax with her until you get home. I get right into work. I try to clear the day so that by noon I’m Can go get E. I should be home no later than 2:30 to see if I can get back to work,” he said.
“No later than 2:30,” she replied.
This way, the two people communicate clearly about what to do in the morning and know who is working on what task, taking which child where, and what time things need to be done. Gaines’ wife doesn’t have to ask him to pick up the kids from school or how to have breakfast with their youngest child because He already knew it.
This is what co-pilot parenting looks like. They are together.
At another point, Gaines’ wife noted that the day had been busy, but also “successful.”
“You said you succeeded today?” he asked.
“Yes! I’ve done everything I need to do today,” she replied.
One netizen commented: “Who raised this man! Show yourself!” In response, Gaines posted a video explaining the person who raised him – his mother, who tragically died 20 years ago. passed away.
“I had to become an adult and a completely independent person as soon as possible,” he points out.
“One thing about abandonment issues is that they create a high sense of independence. So you go through life believing you don’t need other people. I’m living a good life without actually needing people. I live alone in my home. apartment, working part-time and full-time jobs, I was doing my thing.
He admits that letting love into his life (give and take) feels risky “because once you know you can lose love like this, you’re smart enough to realize you’re not the exception. This can happen to you.”
He continued in the caption: “My mom is the best person I have ever experienced. I attribute it all to her and miss her every day.
Hats off to the moms who raised upstanding, present, smart, progressive men like Keele! Thank you Keele for taking all this guidance and love and using it to better his life and that of his family.
